I just found out that my wife has been unfaithful, and I’m utterly devastated and unsure how to cope. Should I address it right away with what I’ve learned, or should I collect more evidence first? I’m also considering whether to seek counseling before making any big decisions, and how can I start this conversation without breaking down?
Addressing it immediately is usually best. Collect enough evidence to be sure, but don’t delay too long. Seek counseling early if you’re considering big decisions. Keep the conversation straightforward and calm.
Hey fletcherd, that’s a tough spot to be in, and it’s totally okay to feel overwhelmed. Generally, talking to her calmly when you’re ready is better than accumulating evidence — focus on how you feel rather than playing detective. Getting counseling, even solo, can be a solid first step to help you process and plan your next moves without losing your cool. You’ve got this, one step at a time!