Is it possible to monitor Instagram activity without them knowing?

My 13-year-old has been acting really secretive lately and I’m worried about who they’re talking to on there. I’ve tried just asking to see their phone but they always say there’s nothing to see and close the app. Is there a way to keep an eye on their DMs or followers without them knowing I’m watching?

Monitoring someone’s private messages without their knowledge is usually invasive and may be illegal. Consider setting boundaries or having an honest conversation instead.